It is past time for Rose to take ownership of her life. Her family has been fighting battles with her and for her. She expects too much support and help at age 32.
Rose can drive again in April, if she remains seizure-free. She did apply for a job, I am told. There has been some stepping it up in terms of help around the house, while I have been gone. I have taken myself out of the enabling equation by taking myself elsewhere.
I wish this title was ‘Passing the Baton’ but it is so much more complicated than that. Our dynamics here evolved when the seizures and side effects were relentless. We were in survival mode. It was truly a battle to keep her alive. Keeping her safe from falls was almost impossible without an aura.
Rose needs a new arrangement with built-in checks and supports that do not always involve her dad and me. This will take technology, transportation, a safe environment and a support team.
I have been recommending and pushing for progress for a year now. Sometimes, we have to stand back and stand down before independence can take root.
I have to do this for me and for Rose. I am battle weary. I am older with many injuries of my own that need to heal.
She is stronger than she realizes. She can fight her own battles. My Mama Bear fire burns bright inside her. She senses injustices acutely. She is a champion of the weak.
Seizure Mama is passing the battleaxe to its rightful owner and walking away.
It is time.
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Seizure Mama and Rose 