The problem with paternalism is not the decisions made,
it is the making of those decisions.
Making decisions for another person sends the message that they are not capable of making good choices.
Taking control of another person’s life, no matter the good intentions, has lasting consequences beyond that one decision.
You have planted seeds of self-doubt.
You have put into question the decision-maker’s values and motives.
Are their values and motives in line with yours or did you just seriously over-reach?
Maybe you need to re-examine your own reasons for feeling the need to step in and take over.
Is your judgement based on out-dated social mores that no longer apply to the present?
Is your over-ride motivated by your standing in the community or political aspirations?
Are you making the call based on your religious principals which may or may not be truly biblical? Does this person you are trying to control have your same beliefs?
Before you start hijacking the decisions of your grown children, you may want to pause and reconsider.
How long do you intend to control their lives?
Do you really want that responsibility?
Seizure Mama/ Flower Roberts
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