(THEN and NOW for Chapter 22:Safety During the Seizure Cycle)
There is no other way to describe our parenting style during those terrible months. It is hard to act relaxed when you are constantly on high alert, but we tried. We endured puzzled looks from strangers. Sometimes we got unsolicited advice. We learned to tolerate all this. It was part of the over-protective parent package. We were protecting Rose from injury, not public opinion.
I know this is a hard pill to swallow. Most folks mean well and are truly trying to help. Some advice is so ridiculous that taking it would be harmful. Our worst treatment suggestion came from a loaned book. It stated that we should hook up the patient to a car battery and shock him/her to kill the Ascaris lumbricoides (worm)larva that were clustering at the base of the brain and cutting off the oxygen supply.
You do what you have to do. This is your fragile child. You will have to live with the results of the drugs and injuries. You need to let the opinion of others fade into the periphery and stay focused on your child’s needs.
If the doctor suggests a helmet, let your child pick it out and decorate it. If you cannot safely leave home without your child strapped in a wheel chair, get one and decorate it for a parade. Embrace whatever it is you need to do to carry on, and do it shamelessly. (I once saw an advertisement for colostomy bags with matching bikinis. That’s how it’s done! )
Sometimes I wonder if I am helping anyone. I do not like giving advice, but I am telling you what I wish someone had told me twenty years ago.